Your Young Person’s Motivation Personality:

The “What’s In It For Me” Kid

What makes this personality type special? This type is defined by their motivation being driven primarily by immediate rewards or benefits. They excel in tasks that offer instant gratification but often avoid or struggle with activities that don’t provide an immediate payoff. This selective motivation can lead to challenges in consistently meeting responsibilities and pursuing long-term goals.

Here’s the positive side: their focus on immediate rewards can be a gateway to teaching them about long-term gratification. These kids and teens have the potential to be highly motivated and driven when they see a clear, personal benefit. Their task-oriented nature, when properly guided, can be expanded beyond immediate rewards to encompass a deeper understanding of long-term benefits. By nurturing their ability to see the bigger picture and how short-term efforts contribute to future successes, The ‘What’s In It For Me’ Kid’s focus can evolve into a more balanced and forward-thinking approach. With encouragement and the right strategies, they can learn to apply their motivation more uniformly and embrace a broader spectrum of tasks and responsibilities.

Understanding the Challenges and Opportunities. ‘The ‘What’s In It For Me’ Kid’ encounters distinct challenges, mainly rooted in their need for immediate gratification. They often engage eagerly in tasks with instant rewards but show little interest in activities that don’t offer an immediate benefit. This focus on short-term gains can lead to difficulties in committing to long-term goals and responsibilities. However, this also presents an opportunity to teach them the value of patience and long-term planning.

Guiding Their Growth. As a parent, your involvement is crucial in helping them shift their perspective. By introducing the concept of future rewards and helping them see how present actions impact their long-term goals, you can guide them toward a more balanced approach. This journey is not about diminishing their desire for immediate rewards; rather, it’s about expanding their understanding of how short-term efforts contribute to long-term successes.

Embarking on a Transformative Path. Ahead lies a journey filled with potential for developing foresight and a broader perspective. Together, you’ll explore strategies to cultivate your young person’s understanding of long-term benefits, transforming their focus on immediate gratification into a more strategic and future-oriented approach. This journey is about helping them to see beyond the present moment and to appreciate the cumulative impact of their efforts over time.

Here’s the Exciting Revelation: If you’re ready to guide The ‘What’s In It For Me’ Kid towards a more future-focused and well-rounded mindset, then you’re on the right track. You’re not just any parent—you’re the navigator helping your young person steer through this developmental phase. Ready for this transformative journey? Let’s begin.

Scroll down to find specially curated resources for ‘The ‘What’s In It For Me’ Kid.’ These tools are tailored to foster an understanding of long-term rewards, encourage a balanced view of tasks, and promote personal and academic growth. Join me in making this a year of significant development and achievement for your child or teen!

Unlocking Success: The Three Essential Ingredients for Strengthening “The Motivation Muscle”

Discover the three key elements that help build your young person’s ‘Motivation Muscle.’ By consistently applying these elements at home, you set the stage for your child or teen to have to develop a strong sense of motivation.

Independence: Igniting Motivation Through Empowered Choices

When young people feel that life ‘just happens to them’, they often don’t engage much in meaningful activities and might spend too much time on social media, YouTube, or playing video games. However, this changes dramatically when they grasp the concept of independence — understanding that THEY are the ones steering their own lives. Realizing that each choice they make can lead to better – or worse – outcomes, they begin to ignite their ‘motivation muscle,’ sparking a drive to take accoutnability for their own decisions and behaviors.

Mastery: Fueling Motivation Through Purpose

Mastery is about more than just becoming skilled; it’s about finding purpose in one’s strengths and interests. Every young person carries within them a unique set of talents and passions. As a parent, guiding them to recognize and cultivate these gifts is crucial. This is how mastery gives their motivation a big boost, making them more excited about learning, growing, and persevering through “hard stuff” like boredom, frustration, and fear.

Connection: Supercharging Motivation Through Connection With Others

Connection is a powerful motivator, especially when young people realize the impact of their natural talents and strengths in their relationships and within the their community. This sense of being an integral part of their family, peer group, and the wider world is what supercharges their motivation. Understanding that they are valued and needed by others not only boosts their happiness but also energizes them to face and overcome challenges. When they know their unique abilities and interests are appreciated, it drives them to persist through difficulties like low energy or self-doubt, propelling them to strive and flourish as their best selves.

Unlocking Success: The Three Essential Ingredients for Strengthening “The Motivation Muscle”

Discover the three key elements that help build your young person’s ‘Motivation Muscle.’ By consistently applying these elements at home, you set the stage for your child or teen to have to develop a strong sense of motivation.

Independence: Igniting Motivation Through Empowered Choices

When young people feel that life ‘just happens to them’, they often don’t engage much in meaningful activities and might spend too much time on social media, YouTube, or playing video games. However, this changes dramatically when they grasp the concept of independence — understanding that THEY are the ones steering their own lives. Realizing that each choice they make can lead to better – or worse – outcomes, they begin to ignite their ‘motivation muscle,’ sparking a drive to take accoutnability for their own decisions and behaviors.

Mastery: Fueling Motivation Through Purpose

Mastery is about more than just becoming skilled; it’s about finding purpose in one’s strengths and interests. Every young person carries within them a unique set of talents and passions. As a parent, guiding them to recognize and cultivate these gifts is crucial. This is how mastery gives their motivation a big boost, making them more excited about learning, growing, and persevering through “hard stuff” like boredom, frustration, and fear.

Connection: Supercharging Motivation Through Connection With Others

Connection is a powerful motivator, especially when young people realize the impact of their natural talents and strengths in their relationships and within the their community. This sense of being an integral part of their family, peer group, and the wider world is what supercharges their motivation. Understanding that they are valued and needed by others not only boosts their happiness but also energizes them to face and overcome challenges. When they know their unique abilities and interests are appreciated, it drives them to persist through difficulties like low energy or self-doubt, propelling them to strive and flourish as their best selves.

What’s The Next Step?

Recognize that your ‘What’s In It For Me’ Kid may struggle to see the value in tasks without immediate rewards, leading them to avoid or underperform in these areas. This tendency can result in them missing out on important learning and growth opportunities. However, this focus on immediate gains can also be a starting point for teaching them about the benefits of long-term planning and the satisfaction of achieving bigger goals.

Ready for a Quick Win? Here’s Your Next Step: Recognize that your ‘What’s In It For Me’ Kid is often motivated to do tasks only when they see an immediate benefit. They might avoid or show little interest in activities that don’t offer instant rewards.

This selective motivation can be challenging, but it also provides a chance to teach them about the value of long-term rewards and satisfaction. Address the core of their selective effort. Help them see how putting effort into a variety of tasks, even those without immediate benefits, can lead to greater achievements and future successes. Gentle and positive conversations can be influential. Acknowledge what they do well, and also guide them to appreciate the benefits of perseverance and effort in all areas.

The key here is to guide them toward understanding and valuing long-term goals and outcomes. Start with

small, manageable steps that gradually introduce the concept of future rewards. This strategy isn’t just about changing their immediate behavior; it’s about fostering a mindset that recognizes and strives for future gains.

Continue to support them. Encourage them to approach every task with a mindset geared towards long-term success. Applaud their efforts, big and small, and when they lean towards short-term thinking, gently steer them back with understanding and encouragement.

You’re more than a parent in this journey; you’re a mentor helping them develop a broader perspective on life’s rewards. Remember, the goal isn’t to force them to change overnight; it’s to help them evolve into thoughtful individuals who understand the value of effort and foresight.

I’m Dr. Becca Ballinger

Before we go any further, let me introduce myself…I’m a child psychologist with a busy private practice, a Modern Parenting Expert, and a mom to two wonderful young adults.

I started focusing on helping kids and teens boost their motivation because of my own two children. They were smart but often chose fun over homework and didn’t use their full natural strengths and talents, and this made me sad and frustrated. I saw the same issue with many of the young people in my private practice too. So many young people were struggling with an underdeveloped ‘motivation muscle.’

So, I got to work. After lots (and lots…and lots…and lots) of research, I created The Self-Motivation Success Formula. It took time to get it just right, but it worked wonders. Both my son and daughter used it to get through law school, and it’s helped lots of families in my private practice too.

Now, I want to share this formula with you. It’s a practical way to help your child or teen become more self-motivated and reach their true potential in our fast-paced world.

I’m Dr. Becca Ballinger

Before we go any further, let me introduce myself…I’m a child psychologist with a busy private practice, a Modern Parenting Expert, and a mom to two wonderful young adults.

I started focusing on helping kids and teens boost their motivation because of my own two children. They were smart but often chose fun over homework and didn’t use their full natural strengths and talents, and this made me sad and frustrated. I saw the same issue with many of the young people in my private practice too. So many young people were struggling with an underdeveloped ‘motivation muscle.’

So, I got to work. After lots (and lots…and lots…and lots) of research, I created The Self-Motivation Success Formula. It took time to get it just right, but it worked wonders. Both my son and daughter used it to get through law school, and it’s helped lots of families in my private practice too.

Now, I want to share this formula with you. It’s a practical way to help your child or teen become more self-motivated and reach their true potential in our fast-paced world.

Do you ever feel like you’re sailing through the challenging journey of parenting a ‘What’s In It For Me’ Kid without a clear map? Searching for effective strategies to manage your young person’s motivation based solely on immediate rewards?

You’re in the right place. I’ve gathered a unique collection of podcast episodes, free guides, eBooks, and worksheets, all tailored to support you and your ‘What’s In It For Me’ child or teen on this path.

These resources are specifically designed to help you comprehend and tackle your child or teen’s focus on short-term gains. They offer strategies for teaching the importance of long-term planning, fostering a sense of future thinking, and developing an understanding of how today’s efforts contribute to tomorrow’s successes. Scroll down to discover my toolkit filled with resources aimed at expanding the ‘What’s In It For Me’ Kid’s perspective and motivation beyond immediate rewards!

Do you ever feel like you’re sailing through the challenging journey of parenting a ‘What’s In It For Me’ Kid without a clear map? Searching for effective strategies to manage your young person’s motivation based solely on immediate rewards?

You’re in the right place. I’ve gathered a unique collection of podcast episodes, free guides, eBooks, and worksheets, all tailored to support you and your ‘What’s In It For Me’ child or teen on this path.

These resources are specifically designed to help you comprehend and tackle your child or teen’s focus on short-term gains. They offer strategies for teaching the importance of long-term planning, fostering a sense of future thinking, and developing an understanding of how today’s efforts contribute to tomorrow’s successes. Scroll down to discover my toolkit filled with resources aimed at expanding the ‘What’s In It For Me’ Kid’s perspective and motivation beyond immediate rewards!

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From nurturing well-motivated young people to instilling meaningful values in them, Modern Parenting Solutions is your weekly guide to navigating the maze of raising kids in the 21st century.

You understand that your young person is brimming with potential, and I know that you’re seeking ways to help them realize it fully. In a world where challenges like low energy, boredom, and fear can hinder their growth, finding the right approach is key. My Sunday podcast is here to guide you. I’ve selected several targeted episodes aimed at uncovering and nurturing your child or teen’s natural strengths and interests. You’ll learn strategies to help them overcome modern obstacles and use their abilities to meaningfully connect with their communities and the world around them. This journey is not just about fostering skills; it’s about instilling a sense of purpose and joy in your young person. Tune in for your weekly dose of insights and inspiration, as we navigate this path together, ensuring your parenting aligns with your core values while adapting to today’s demands. Your new Sunday ritual is waiting, packed with the guidance you need to help your child thrive in today’s world.

For the entire episode library, listen on:

iTunes | Amazon Music | Spotify | iHeart Radio | My Website with Show Notes

YOUR HAND-PICKED EPISODES OF:

The Modern Parenting Solutions Podcast

From nurturing well-motivated young people to instilling meaningful values in them, Modern Parenting Solutions is your weekly guide to navigating the maze of raising kids in the 21st century.

You understand that your young person is brimming with potential, and I know that you’re seeking ways to help them realize it fully. In a world where challenges like low energy, boredom, and fear can hinder their growth, finding the right approach is key. My Sunday podcast is here to guide you. I’ve selected several targeted episodes aimed at uncovering and nurturing your child or teen’s natural strengths and interests. You’ll learn strategies to help them overcome modern obstacles and use their abilities to meaningfully connect with their communities and the world around them. This journey is not just about fostering skills; it’s about instilling a sense of purpose and joy in your young person. Tune in for your weekly dose of insights and inspiration, as we navigate this path together, ensuring your parenting aligns with your core values while adapting to today’s demands. Your new Sunday ritual is waiting, packed with the guidance you need to help your child thrive in today’s world.

For the entire episode library, listen on:

iTunes | Amazon Music | Spotify | iHeart Radio | My Website with Show Notes

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Specially selected for you, I’ve chosen the best tools from my collection of free parenting resources, each tailored to complement the nurturing of a ‘What’s In It For Me?’ Kid. These resources are designed to support the unique opportunities of parenting a child or teen who already exhibits strong self-motivation. They blend proven parenting techniques with contemporary strategies that align with today’s dynamic environment. Explore this customized toolkit to enhance your approach in guiding your ‘What’s In It For Me?’ Kid towards continued personal growth, resilience, and well-rounded development, maximizing their potential in all aspects of life!

From Apathy to Action: The Parent's Guide to External Motivation

Struggling to ignite your young person’s ‘motivation muscle’ and unsure where to start? Don’t worry! From Apathy to Action: The Parent’s Guide to External Motivation is your go-to resource for mastering the first step – using external rewards effectively. Whether it’s homework, chores, or cultivating their hobbies, this guide has got you covered. Get ready to awaken their inner drive and strengthen that ‘motivation muscle’!

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Dream Big, Plan Smart: Your Family’s Guide to Future Visioning

Step into the world of Future Visioning – a transformative approach to nurturing your child or teen’s dreams and aspirations through everyday conversations. Wondering how to kickstart these meaningful discussions? Within its pages, you’ll find 50 specially crafted prompts, each tailored to different age groups and designed to resonate with various interests and passions. But it’s not just about starting conversations – it’s about shaping futures. These prompts are stepping stones towards building a world where your child’s or teen’s aspirations are not just heard, but actively encouraged and planned. Download this guide today, and transform your everyday chats into the foundation of your child’s bright future. 🚀

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The Ultimate Guide To Igniting Independent Thought

Ready to help your child break free from the social media echo chamber and think for themselves? The Ultimate Guide to Igniting Independent Thought is your go-to manual! Packed with actionable tips and exercises, this guide empowers you to nurture your young person’s ability to form their own opinions and make thoughtful decisions. It’s critical thinking made easy and fun!

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School Bells & Growth Spells: A Parent's Playbook for a Breakthrough School Year

Embark on a transformative journey with your young person this school year. Dive into this insightful guide that lays out five crucial developmental areas for your child or teen’s growth: academics, independence, decision-making skills, parent-child connection, and belongingness. Discover unique, actionable strategies to boost their academic performance, foster self-reliance, enhance decision-making skills, deepen relationships, and nurture a sense of belonging. Equip yourself with the tools to guide and inspire your child or teen toward a happy, motivated, and successful school year.

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Sunrise Success: Your Guide to Stress-Free School Mornings

As a child psychologist, one of the most common concerns I encounter is how to handle mornings when kids simply don’t want to go to school. That’s why I created the ‘Sunrise Success: Your Guide to Stress-Free School Mornings.’ This guide is your secret weapon for transforming chaotic mornings into calm, productive starts. Packed with expert strategies and real-life tips, you’ll learn how to establish a morning routine that not only works but also strengthens your bond with your young person. Ready to make every sunrise a smooth, stress-free experience? Download this resource now.

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Self-Control Strategies That Work: Improve Your Child or Teen’s Impulse Control Today

Struggling to help your child or teen master the art of self-control? This comprehensive guide is packed with practical strategies and real-world scenarios to guide your family towards healthier habits. Discover the secrets to nurturing patience, resilience, and decision-making skills in your young person. It’s more than just a guide—it’s a transformational tool that turns everyday challenges into opportunities for growth and success. Don’t wait for change to come; be the change your child or teen needs to thrive in a modern world!

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